About UNNM

Knowing When to Quit

As I’ve already mentioned, this is not the website I wanted to create.

The name UnNakedMarriage.com is a direct reference to The Naked Marriage, the first Christian book Katie and I read together—written by Dave and Ashley Willis. It’s an exceptional book that explores what it means for a husband and wife to live with complete vulnerability, transparency, trust, and intimacy.

Here’s an overview of The Naked Marriage book:

Imagine a marriage with complete vulnerability, transparency, trust, and intimacy. Imagine a marriage rooted in faith, friendship, and mutual fulfillment. Imagine a marriage with amazing sex—but where great sex is only the icing on the cake. This might all sound too good to be true, but it’s exactly what God designed marriage to be. Having a “naked marriage” is about much more than just nakedness in the bedroom—it means being naked emotionally, spiritually, and physically.

Katie and I believed in this vision. We prayed together, read the bible together, and pursued God’s design for marriage together. For the first time in our lives, we intended to include God not just as an observer, but as the center of our relationship.

We believed we were building something lasting, something sacred. And I believed—still believe—that God had a ministry planned for us.

But what happens when a wife in a Christian marriage decides to walk away from that covenant? When she stops going to church, runs from God and lies to cover her sins?

Does God Allow Divorce?

We were taught that Scripture permits divorce in three cases:

• Adultery
• Abuse
• Abandonment

But here’s the harder question: Just because God allows something, does that mean you should do it?

My answer—after a lot of prayer—is no. Not automatically. You need to seek the Holy Spirit. You need to stay connected to God and listen for the direction He has for you.

Even after Katie filed for divorce. Even after I left the house. I still stayed committed to the marriage. Why?

Because I believed God created our relationship. I saw the blessings He poured out on us. I saw the direction we were headed—the way God was using our story, even with the the kids. And I still believed she was a gift from God, even when she chose to break her promises.

Fighting for My Gift

I’ve had to admit to both God and Katie that at times, I made the mistake of putting her before Him. It’s easy to confuse “our relationship with God together” with our individual relationships with Him. There’s a difference, and I missed that line at times.

But even through all of this, I still don’t fully understand what happened. All I can do now is pray—that God draws her back to Him. That she stops running from what God wants her to do.

What You’ll Find Here

This site isn’t just my story. It’s a place of healing and clarity for other Christian men who find themselves abandoned, betrayed, or blindsided by divorce they never wanted.

Here you’ll find:

Book reviews and resources like Navigating Divorce for the Christian Man by JJ Axton.

Video,website and podcast links that speak truth and biblical hope into your situation.

Real talk about the pain of being faithful to your marriage when your wife chooses not to be.

Encouragement and biblical truth about what God says to men who stayed when their wives walked.

This is for the men who are left with no choice—when your wife chooses to tear flesh and leave a marriage God created.

Just remember, God is not done writing your story.

My story can be found here.